How to overcome hate and anger?
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Big / tough question indeed!
First of all, let us see why we hate and develop anger?
Isn't the hatred and the anger two faces of the same truth?
And isn't fear / apprehension of the past experience, again another angle of the same fact which we call hate and anger?
We think there is a past.
And we keep accumulating anger / hatred / fear / apprehension because of the things that happen to us all the time.
Let us not say anger is bad and we should not become prey to anger. That means we shouldn't hate.
But still the anger is there all the time, because there is fear / apprehension that the past could repeat again and again.
So the cycle continues.
But look at this, -this way.
Usually every person is dominated by the accumulated fear, anger, apprehension and sorrow / misery of failures in life and the things one always wanted to have and the life simply denied all or a few of them. There are also some pleasures that come our way quite unexpected and then we feel somewhat relaxed for a short-while. Though that serves as a consolation-prize, if any.
Why we feel insecure?
Isn't life insecure every moment.
Anything untoward can happen to any-one any moment.
Yet every-one is cocooned in one's own petty fears, sorrows, anguish and when it becomes unbearable one feels depressed.
Depression too is the inverted state of anger only. Anger is the heightened state of tension, Depression is a deep plummeting.
But could we understand that all these states are phases of mind that come for a time and then just go away, leaving without a trace?
If you flow with and identify yourself with the mind in terms of the thought :
"This is happening with / to me."
Then this thought is again a phase like those many which come and go away.
Yesterday I was saying of something about 'attention'.
If we give attention to the phases of mind and keep calm without thinking of dealing with them in any way, without being distressed, (for example we can divert our attention away from them and think of something else, like the thousand things reading, eating, listening to music or viewing TV, playing a game on video or in a court), .... and just watch very silently what is going on in the mind, perhaps we could sense something altogether new.
In a split second you can transcend the whole mind itself.
All good, bad and the usual things happen to every-one and all, at different times.
And no one is spared or 'secure', 'safe' in the strict sense.
Ultimately we all say; -'there is death'.
But isn't death too a thought only?
But we fear death (or sometimes anticipate too). Because we tend to think death will make us free from all the troubles that we have to endure in life.
This way we just vegetate and the life passes by.
I feel, all the while we keep seeking solutions and answers to the imaginary, even hypothetical problems that we are surrounded by.
And it is because our attention is focused on the thought of those things.
Yet there are far more serious, genuine and real problems in life that wait us while we sulk and indulge in worrying of those many imaginary hypothetical things.
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Love!
--
Big / tough question indeed!
First of all, let us see why we hate and develop anger?
Isn't the hatred and the anger two faces of the same truth?
And isn't fear / apprehension of the past experience, again another angle of the same fact which we call hate and anger?
We think there is a past.
And we keep accumulating anger / hatred / fear / apprehension because of the things that happen to us all the time.
Let us not say anger is bad and we should not become prey to anger. That means we shouldn't hate.
But still the anger is there all the time, because there is fear / apprehension that the past could repeat again and again.
So the cycle continues.
But look at this, -this way.
Usually every person is dominated by the accumulated fear, anger, apprehension and sorrow / misery of failures in life and the things one always wanted to have and the life simply denied all or a few of them. There are also some pleasures that come our way quite unexpected and then we feel somewhat relaxed for a short-while. Though that serves as a consolation-prize, if any.
Why we feel insecure?
Isn't life insecure every moment.
Anything untoward can happen to any-one any moment.
Yet every-one is cocooned in one's own petty fears, sorrows, anguish and when it becomes unbearable one feels depressed.
Depression too is the inverted state of anger only. Anger is the heightened state of tension, Depression is a deep plummeting.
But could we understand that all these states are phases of mind that come for a time and then just go away, leaving without a trace?
If you flow with and identify yourself with the mind in terms of the thought :
"This is happening with / to me."
Then this thought is again a phase like those many which come and go away.
Yesterday I was saying of something about 'attention'.
If we give attention to the phases of mind and keep calm without thinking of dealing with them in any way, without being distressed, (for example we can divert our attention away from them and think of something else, like the thousand things reading, eating, listening to music or viewing TV, playing a game on video or in a court), .... and just watch very silently what is going on in the mind, perhaps we could sense something altogether new.
In a split second you can transcend the whole mind itself.
All good, bad and the usual things happen to every-one and all, at different times.
And no one is spared or 'secure', 'safe' in the strict sense.
Ultimately we all say; -'there is death'.
But isn't death too a thought only?
But we fear death (or sometimes anticipate too). Because we tend to think death will make us free from all the troubles that we have to endure in life.
This way we just vegetate and the life passes by.
I feel, all the while we keep seeking solutions and answers to the imaginary, even hypothetical problems that we are surrounded by.
And it is because our attention is focused on the thought of those things.
Yet there are far more serious, genuine and real problems in life that wait us while we sulk and indulge in worrying of those many imaginary hypothetical things.
--
Love!
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