To be or not to be -1
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In relation, or simply being related with persons, thoughts, feelings, things purely physical and / or mental, we hardly care to see that all relationship is in time and place which is thus a conditional state, happens or exists in certain conditions. So all relationship is always conditional and is restricted by those conditions. In a way it is always well-defined, even perfectly defined, if we can see.
For example the place where we live, where we work for our livelihood or just learn something. This living, working and learning too is subject to conditions and under those conditions we are connected and in harmony with those persons, thoughts, feelings, things purely physical and / or mental.
But at any moment we are faced with several such persons, thoughts, feelings, things purely physical and / or mental.
Intellect is one such thing that keeps suggesting us how to deal with a relation, that is how to be related with persons, thoughts, feelings, things purely physical and / or mental at any moment. And to see the imperfections of intellect is far more important than to follow or doubt intellect.
After all, intellect is but conditioned responses of memory, while memory is a prism through which we see this moment which has no continuity with so-called 'past' and / or the so-called 'future' which is but the projection of imagination onto the screen of present moment.
Relatedness is a fact, a Reality alive moment to moment though 'moment' itself is but in imagination.
Anyhow, we are always related with the circumstances and have to respond with them in the most appropriate way, if we want to connect with them in harmony.
In dealing with things of purely physical nature, memory helps to a great extent. But in dealing with the things related to mind, intellect is the only tool that explains, evaluates, estimates the things we are in contact with.
Where-from the intellect gets prompted to function? Either we stick to 'past' experience which is but a thread of memory of something which is no more now, or we look the things totally anew, afresh, without letting the memory interfere.
Once I'm related to a person who I came in contact with, my intellect at once begins formulating my feelings about that person, -he or she. And after a meeting for a short or comparatively longer time, when I see him / her again, the prism of memory stands between me and him or her.
The tool-brush of memory paints a picture of past or future in imagination or in words, and this picture is superimposed on the present moment and the person I am presently in contact with is obliterated and his or her image takes his place.
This is the beginning of what we call a 'relationship'.
Then we are no more related, though tend to think and believe this thing which we call 'relationship'.
Repeated meetings puts loads of layers on this image .
I feel certain sense of duty, commitment, faithfulness, fidelity, trust, security in any such a relationship and at the same time fear, doubt, uncertainty, betrayal, insecurity too lurk inside there in my mind. I am gripped with conflict, hope, even envy and jealousy because of many such relationships are there, and I compare. I don't see how to free myself from this whole thing, -namely,
"the relationship".
Then again there are so many other newer or older relationships and I keep toggling over from one to another.
This is my acquired behavior.
Memory becomes my 'second nature'.
Is it possible for me to see this whole phenomenon, this 'relationship', discard this false, fake thing and yet stay related to people, persons, thoughts, feelings, things purely physical and / or mental, which I come across everyday, every moment?
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In relation, or simply being related with persons, thoughts, feelings, things purely physical and / or mental, we hardly care to see that all relationship is in time and place which is thus a conditional state, happens or exists in certain conditions. So all relationship is always conditional and is restricted by those conditions. In a way it is always well-defined, even perfectly defined, if we can see.
For example the place where we live, where we work for our livelihood or just learn something. This living, working and learning too is subject to conditions and under those conditions we are connected and in harmony with those persons, thoughts, feelings, things purely physical and / or mental.
But at any moment we are faced with several such persons, thoughts, feelings, things purely physical and / or mental.
Intellect is one such thing that keeps suggesting us how to deal with a relation, that is how to be related with persons, thoughts, feelings, things purely physical and / or mental at any moment. And to see the imperfections of intellect is far more important than to follow or doubt intellect.
After all, intellect is but conditioned responses of memory, while memory is a prism through which we see this moment which has no continuity with so-called 'past' and / or the so-called 'future' which is but the projection of imagination onto the screen of present moment.
Relatedness is a fact, a Reality alive moment to moment though 'moment' itself is but in imagination.
Anyhow, we are always related with the circumstances and have to respond with them in the most appropriate way, if we want to connect with them in harmony.
In dealing with things of purely physical nature, memory helps to a great extent. But in dealing with the things related to mind, intellect is the only tool that explains, evaluates, estimates the things we are in contact with.
Where-from the intellect gets prompted to function? Either we stick to 'past' experience which is but a thread of memory of something which is no more now, or we look the things totally anew, afresh, without letting the memory interfere.
Once I'm related to a person who I came in contact with, my intellect at once begins formulating my feelings about that person, -he or she. And after a meeting for a short or comparatively longer time, when I see him / her again, the prism of memory stands between me and him or her.
The tool-brush of memory paints a picture of past or future in imagination or in words, and this picture is superimposed on the present moment and the person I am presently in contact with is obliterated and his or her image takes his place.
This is the beginning of what we call a 'relationship'.
Then we are no more related, though tend to think and believe this thing which we call 'relationship'.
Repeated meetings puts loads of layers on this image .
I feel certain sense of duty, commitment, faithfulness, fidelity, trust, security in any such a relationship and at the same time fear, doubt, uncertainty, betrayal, insecurity too lurk inside there in my mind. I am gripped with conflict, hope, even envy and jealousy because of many such relationships are there, and I compare. I don't see how to free myself from this whole thing, -namely,
"the relationship".
Then again there are so many other newer or older relationships and I keep toggling over from one to another.
This is my acquired behavior.
Memory becomes my 'second nature'.
Is it possible for me to see this whole phenomenon, this 'relationship', discard this false, fake thing and yet stay related to people, persons, thoughts, feelings, things purely physical and / or mental, which I come across everyday, every moment?
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